All divorces are created differently. With that said, there are common signs that divorce is coming soon. Additionally, not all marital problems are the same size or severity. In some situations, early detection may help a couple resolve marital sore-spots or problem areas.
However, at times, too much damage has been done to salvage a fading relationship. Nonetheless, detecting the issues below may help to end the marriage as painlessly as possible. Even when a relationship cannot be salvaged, recognizing the signs below can help to avoid a messy and drawn-out marital separation process.
GROWING DIFFERENCES
Small differences can grow over time. At times, differences in taste, opinions, or interests are like a splinter that grows into a crack. Unfixed, the crack can spread to the point of shattering.
With marriages, differences often begin as small issues. Possibly one spouse has a habit that starts as a small annoyance. Like dripping water, over time the annoying issue can create a major hole in the relationship. When this happens, the small difference can grow to a point that corrodes the marriage’s foundation.
LACK OF COMMUNICATION — SIGNS DIVORCE IS COMING SOON
Healthy marriages often involve a deep bond and connection. Lack of communication is a telltale sign of relationship problems. Like growing differences, communication issues often grow over time.
Small communication issues can grow into big issues. At times, spouses stop talking – grow apart — and begin living different lives. When this happens, marital separation often can be found looming around the corner.
With that said, communication issues also include abusive communication. Like lack of communication, abusive communication often starts small and grows.
Abusive communication may begin with “sarcastic” or harsh comments. As time passes, the harsh comments may grow into hurtful insults or threats. In some situations, abusive communications can reach the point of causing severe emotional distress. When this happens, a restraining order of protection and divorce may be waiting.
SUDDEN INTEREST IN ACCOUNT BALANCES
Is your spouse suddenly interested in your account balances? Does your spouse’s sudden interest seem random or uncharacteristic?
For instance, is your spouse suddenly curious about your retirement accounts, home mortgage balance, or credit card debt? If so, this sudden interest could be an ominous sign that divorce is looming.
You see, most debt and assets that are built during marriage are evenly split upon divorce. A spouse that suddenly becomes interested in debt and assets that were built during the marriage may have an eye on divorce.
Possibly the interested spouse is researching New Mexico divorce and how property and assets are divided with divorce. In turn, the spouse develops a sudden interest in community property and what will be divided upon divorce.
Also, listen for lawyerly terms or phrases. Is your spouse suddenly using words/phrases such as:
- Best interests of the child;
- Status quo; or
- Community assets/debts?
If so, your spouse could be researching New Mexico divorce laws. Additionally, your spouse may be speaking with an attorney and preparing for divorce.
LARGE CASH WITHDRAWS OR TRANSFERS — SIGNS DIVORCE IS COMING SOON
Large cash withdraws or transfers could be a sign that divorce is coming. As mentioned, property and money that is accumulated during the marriage is usually community property. In turn, community property is usually split 50-50 upon divorce.
Once a divorce is filed, a Temporary Domestic Order (TDO) prevents both spouses from making changes to the status quo. For instance, the TDO prevents both spouses from:
- Cancelling accounts;
- Removing a spouse from an account; or
- Making large withdrawals.
In essence, the Temporary Domestic violence protection Order freezes the “status quo” when the divorce is filed. With that said, a marriage is like the wild west before the Temporary Domestic Order is filed and served. Before the Temporary Domestic Order is filed and served, either spouse can potentially cancel accounts, withdraw money, or make changes without violating a court order.
Moreover, money that is spent during the marriage is presumed to be community debt. Accordingly, money that either spouse spends on entertainment, dinning, or vacations may be found to be community debt. For this reason, it is essential to monitor accounts when divorce is looming. Failing to monitor accounts could lead to mounting debt that the court calls community. In doing so, the court can split the community debt 50-50.
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